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I have a confession to make. Prior to getting engaged, I was not a huge fan of elaborate bridesmaid asks. They felt disingenuous, flashy, and primarily for social media bragging rights. Yet, here we are today and I’m writing a post about how I asked my bridesmaids. (And why I’m so glad I did!)
So, if you’re trying to decide the best way to ask your gals to stand by your side on your big day, here are my key takeaways:
- Make it personal
- Give something lasting
- Keep it simple!
I fully planned on asking each of my friends in person after having a meaningful conversation about our relationship and how we got here today, and how I wanted them by my side for one of the most important days of my life. However, this proved to be extremely unrealistic. My bridesmaids are spread across the country, and it would have been impossible to have the in-person experience I desired. This led me to consider other options, none of which sounded too promising. A text message? Too informal. A phone call? Awkward and difficult to coordinate. So here I was, committed to mailing a bridesmaid ask; something not too cheesy, but still special.
I wanted to do something that was affordable, very personal, and had lasting power beyond the bridesmaid ask. After weeks of agonizing and browsing the web – it dawned on me. My fiancé and I run a wooden sign business on Etsy, Simply Cedar. I wanted to make each of my ladies a sign that would be meaningful as a bridesmaid ask and beyond. I decided on the phrase, “the best is yet to come.”
I wanted to add an extra level of fun and personalization, so I ordered a custom confetti mix from The Confetti Bar. I love that I was able to pick colors and include little custom cutouts of our date, our hashtag, and “be my bridesmaid?”
Other than that, I decided to keep it simple. And I have to admit, I was SO happy with how everything turned out. From the moment I sent them out, I sat anxiously awaiting everyone’s replies. All of my friends were delighted with the gift and it was the perfect way to kick off the festivities!
Here are some other personal ideas for “popping the question” to your bridesmaids:
- Customized wine bottles
- Jewelry (that they can wear on the wedding day!)
- Flower delivery
- A yummy treat (like Sugarfina candies or local macaroons)