Our production assistant, Patrice, is recently married and reflecting on her wedding planning journey. Check back for more real-life wedding planning insights – or follow along here!
For most couples, planning your wedding takes up a significant amount of time for about a year before the big event. That was definitely the case for our wedding, and especially true towards the end of that year. Starting about two months prior, it was all wedding, all the time. Vendor confirmations, planning meetings, last-minute DIYs, schedules… every spare minute we had was dedicated to our wedding! Then, the day happened and it was wonderful and went by in a flash, just as everyone always says it does. Once we got back from the honeymoon, we almost felt like there was this huge gap in our lives where the wedding planning had been. All of a sudden we had all this free time and we didn’t really have anything that we were “working towards,” which left us feeling a little bummed out and uninspired. Cue the “post-wedding blues.”
According to psychologists, this is actually pretty common. So today I’m sharing some of the things that have helped me to combat the post-wedding blues:
Rehash your favorite moments If you’re anything like me (hello type-A personalities!), in the stillness of post-wedding life, you may start focusing on the little insignificant things that went wrong. It helped me to actively monitor when I started thinking like this, and to switch my frame of mind to my favorite moments. Receiving our photos and video helped a TON with this, because they were essentially a highlight reel of all the best parts of the day.
Call friends and family One of the things that bummed me out the most after our wedding was that I wasn’t able to have everyone I loved close like I did that weekend. And while you may not be able to have all of your favorite people in the same room again, pick up the phone and give them a call. Chances are, those closest to you would love to chat about the day, laugh about the slip ups, and relive the highlights. I always felt better after calling my mom or one of my bridesmaids.
Schedule date nights with your spouse Having a little special one-on-one time with your new hubby or wife brings it back to the reason you had a wedding in the first place – your marriage! Plus, when you plan it in advance, it gives you something to look forward to. No, it might not cost thousands of dollars and take months of preparation, but that’s definitely not a bad thing!
Start some new projects Starting something new will give your free time some purpose. Finally pursue that hobby you’ve been eyeing, add a furry friend to your little family, pick up a yoga class, or get started on some home renovation projects like we did. Try to find something you can do together so that you get a little extra newlywed bonding time in!
Have any of you experienced the post-wedding blues? Let us know what helped you cope in the comments below!
